Putting “Drama” into Perspective
What do you do when you walk into a room and you’ve just stepped into a cloud of other people’s drama? It’s so easy to get swept up in it, but sometimes you have to realize: you don’t have to get involved!
The next time you walk into a room and everyone is complaining or freaking out about something, here are a few things you can do:
If possible, walk back out of the room!
If you can’t leave the room, don’t respond directly to what’s going on, especially if it doesn’t involve you personally.
If it does involve you personally, stay centered, stay present, and send thoughts of well-being to everyone in the room.
If you’re on your way to work and you know something might be brewing, mentally prepare yourself and remember that you can handle whatever is in front of you.
It also helps to zoom out and see the entire situation from a broader viewpoint. Put it into perspective. Realize that the things we complain about or freak out about are usually really small and inconsequential, and there are always solutions. I used to think I had to help everyone with their problems, but sometimes people just like to complain! Even if you offer them the perfect solution, they might not see it—and that’s okay. Love them where they are.
If you’re stuck in major traffic, realize how amazing it is that you have a car and that you have a place to go! Life is good! If you’re in the middle of work-related drama, realize how great it is that you have a job and that there really is a solution for everything. Let the drama be a trigger for gratitude! I always come back to gratitude. It’s like a magical elixir for your emotional state. If you can get to a place of gratitude, it’s easy to see everything from a higher perspective.
I was out shopping recently and I was feeling stressed out about a few things related to all the changes going on in my life. I was walking around in a state of worry and frustration. Then I saw a woman in a wheelchair and I thought, Wow, I am so incredibly blessed! And the frustration evaporated. Perspective is powerful!
I believe that drama (big and small) has a purpose. Sometimes it’s so unbearable that it propels you to move forward into something you were afraid to do. Sometimes it makes you see how blessed you really are. And sometimes it makes you broaden your perspective and realize that it’s not so bad after all.